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One Factor You're Over Looking When Finding Love | AsianDate Blog

One Factor You’re Over Looking When Finding Love

“Location, location, location” – you may or may not be familiar with this expression, but it’s commonly used when talking about a business or about real estate. These topics are far from dating, however, interestingly enough, the expression about location is significant when talking about finding love.

How Is Location Relevant to Finding Love?

Peter Jonason, senior lecturer in personality or individual differences at the University of Western Sydney, conducted new research along with other collaborators. The research aimed to:

  • Examine the habits of people looking for both short and long-term relationships.
  • Identify personality traits connected to the preferences of specific venues.
  • Discover gender differences when it came to venue preferences.

The participants of the research were students, 100 of them, 70% female and 30% male, ranging in age from 18 to 38. Surprisingly, a good number of the participants unanimously agreed on which venues people visit to find short and long-term relationships. Here’s a list of the results:

Long-term:

  • Class
  • Organizations
  • Religious
  • Work
  • Gym
  • Coffee shop
  • Volunteer groups
  • Neighborhood
  • Conferences
  • Park

Short-term:

  • Bar
  • Nightclub
  • Party
  • Dance Club
  • Beach
  • Wedding
  • Gym
  • Concert
  • Fraternity party
  • Neighborhood

Next, a different set of participants were required to answer a questionnaire that assessed different traits like narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism, honesty/humility, emotionality, extraversion, and so on. They were also asked to imagine going to the places on the list above and rate how likely they’re going to find a date at the venue.

Final Results

The numbers were calculated. The results showed that narcissism seemed to be the driving force for mating success in the list for short-term venues. At the same time, these narcissists may use short-term venues to look for long-term relationships. So what does that tell all of us today? One, if we don’t want to date a narcissist, we need to find love in the right places. Two, if all we’re looking for is short-term connections, we, now, have a good idea of where to find them.

Location Is Key Even In Finding Love

It’s strange to say but location is key, or at least one of them, in finding love. If you found this post interesting, please feel free to share it via email or on social media. Don’t forget to head to our blog to check out more of our posts.

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These Words Are Slowly Destroying Your Relationship

Phrases like ‘you mean nothing to me’, ‘I hate you’, or worse, ‘I don’t love you anymore’ are pretty blatant. They all tell the person you’re talking to that you want out of the relationship. Despite the harshness of these phrases, they are better compared to others that are slowly destroying your relationship without you knowing it.

Here’s How You’re Destroying Your Relationship Unconsciously

It’s not that we are saying that the phrases mentioned above are ‘good’. We’re saying that they are straight to the point. They convey a very clear message without allowing the other person to think of other meanings. But, we’re not here to talk about those words today. We’re here to talk about words or phrases that are destroying your relationship. You might even be saying them on a daily basis:

This is all your fault.

Does this sound familiar? Pointing fingers could be one reason your partner loses interest in the relationship. Always pounding on the blame to the other person without acknowledging your part in the conflict could make your partner feel diminished.

You’re useless.

Another sentence that you should avoid saying is this. Again, it makes your significant other feel that they are worthless and that you don’t appreciate anything they do. You’re destroying your relationship with just a few words.

You need to do this. You need to do that.

To you, these phrases may sound harmless. ‘You need to be more outgoing’ sounds like it can do no harm, but think again. Saying sentences that start with ‘you need to…’ means that the other person in the relationship needs to make specific changes based on your opinion. Your opinion could be wrong or offensive, you know.

Why don’t you just do A, instead of B?

You’re offering advice which is great, but the problem here lies in the finality of your sentence. You’re destroying your relationship by suggesting something you came up with yourself. What you’re doing is shutting down the opportunity to talk to your partner to resolve things in a better way.

We all struggle with our relationships. No union is perfect, but if we strive to become more sensitive and see things from a perspective of love and nurturing, it’s not just ourselves who will reap the benefit of becoming a better person. We could be uplifting our partners as well. We have more relationship advice on our blog so make sure you check out the rest of our posts.

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This Is How You Breathe New Life Into A Stale Relationship

Finding a life partner is no mean feat. There’s a sea of potential lovers and spouses out there who are waiting to be “tried and tested” and  it can be an overwhelming experience. But even when you do find your significant other and spend a few years of your life together, problems like feeling bored, or like you’re stuck in a rut once the honeymoon phase is over will often emerge making you wonder if you have made the right choice. If you’re feeling like you’re in a kind of stale relationship, don’t despair – there are ways to breathe new life into it.

What Is A Stale Relationship Like?

A stale relationship is one where you feel like you’re doing the same thing over and over again, lacking much excitement and the feeling of adventure. It’s one that, well, just doesn’t feel “fresh” anymore.

Can You Make A Stale Relationship Fresh Again?

If genuine emotions of love and admiration are there, of course, you can. All it takes is a bit of effort and willingness from both partners. Here are some ways to improve things.

First of all, you need to be able to address the elephant in the room. You can feel the boredom, and it’s more than probable that so does your significant other. There’s no reason to lay blame or pretend it’s not there, though. The first and vital step to finding a solution is to recognize the problem and decide you want to work on making things better. Have that talk, and be positive that you’re both on the same page.

To begin with, a great idea is to start going on dates again. Not with other people, of course. Very often couples who have been together for some time tend to skip date nights because they have gotten too comfortable. Sure, slouching on the sofa in your PJs on a Saturday night is a lot more convenient than dressing up for a night at the bar, but it’s also far less stimulating and exciting. Even the fact that you will dress up for each other will mean something – it will mean you are actually interested enough to make an effort.

Second, you should remind your partner (and yourself) the things that make you love and admire each other. Arrange to say one thing every day that makes you love your partner. For example, every morning you can tell your partner “I’m in love with you because…” and add even the smallest things that draw you to her/him. In a routine where we tend to whine about the things our partners do wrong (like forgetting to take out the trash), it’s good to remind our partners of the reasons we actually love them. It might seem tedious or silly at first, but it totally works.

Another trick to make your stale relationship feel fresh again is to compile a list of things that make you have fun, or that you’d like to try. Have you always wanted to visit Paris? Has your partner always wanted to play paintball but you were too bored to follow? Do you both want to try bungee jumping off a bridge? Do you both like ice-skating but have never done it together? Does a bakery class sound interesting to you? Find things that excite you and make you have fun and do them together. Shared fun is the best kind of fun, and it’s incredibly bonding too.

A fourth important factor in reviving a relationship that’s gone a little off is to make things more interesting in the bedroom. If you’re feeling bored in the relationship, things are probably not much better in the sex department. There are 3 words for this issue: spice things up. Talk about the new things you can introduce, sext your partner from work, from the bus, from the next room. Talk dirty, talk about your fantasies and candidly ask your partner for the things that would bring back fire between the sheets. Be open to new suggestions and experiences, and take things one step at a time. You’ll be surprised at how a small change, like a new set of underwear or a fuzzy set of handcuffs, can heat things up again.

And If All Else Fails, Do This

Last, but not least, if the above steps don’t do much for you, don’t hesitate to seek the help of an expert. Couples therapy is not half as daunting as you might imagine, and it can get to the root of the issues you could be facing without even realizing it.

If there is one thing for sure, it’s that modern-day relationships are not the perfectly happy situations we see in Hollywood films or read in romantic novels. They take effort, determination, care, and – above all – they take love. Once love is there, even a stale relationship can become as fresh as hot cakes that have just come out of the oven.

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What can make age gap relationships work or not work?

Age Gap Relationships Can Be Brilliant, Here’s Why

With so much going on regarding human relationships, one cannot help but wonder why there is still a kind of taboo regarding age gap relationships. As long as two adults are willingly involved in it, why is there such a big fuss about choosing to be with someone younger or older than you?

A Survey On Age Gap Relationships

A new survey, carried out by Wang-Sheng Lee of the Department of Economics in Deakin University and IZA in Burwood, Australia and Terra McKinnish of the Department of Economics in the University of Colorado and IZA, in Boulder, USA, examines how the age gap affects the evolution of marital satisfaction over the duration of marriage using household panel data from Australia.

What the survey found, in a nutshell, is that those who marry younger spouses are happier in the relationship. However, as the survey concludes: “Marital satisfaction declines with marital duration for both men and women in differently aged couples relative to those in similarly aged couples. These relative declines erase the initial higher levels of marital satisfaction experienced by men married to younger wives and women married to younger husbands within 6 to 10 years of marriage. A possible mechanism is that differently aged couples are less resilient to negative shocks compared to similarly aged couples, which we find some supportive evidence for.” How much should these results affect us, though?

The Honest Truth About Age Gap Relationships

Despite surveys with negative or opposite conclusions regarding age gap relationships, the truth about these relationships is that they are as good as the people involved in them. As with any other romantic relationship, age gap relationships take effort and sacrifices.

To illustrate this point – the study claims that a lack of shared goals may be why these relationships fall apart, but isn’t that the case in any relationship, regardless of age? If one of you wants to focus on his career while the other is ready to make babies, isn’t that a problem when both partners are of the same age? Doesn’t that have to do with your personality and dreams rather than your age?

The Benefits of Age Gap Relationships

To get to the point: does one gain anything from being in one? In one word: yes. Both partners in age gap relationships gain a lot from being together. First of all, if you’re the younger one, you are very likely to learn a lot from your older and more experienced partner regarding life, work, and relationships. Knowledge coming straight out of experience is the most precious kind there is, and a partner who can honestly offer sound advice is a huge asset. If you’re the older partner, it’s very likely that your younger partner will revitalize you, keeping you-up-to-date with things and giving you incentive to discover new things and live new, exciting experiences.

Another thing keeping age gap relationships happy is admiration. The younger person usually admires the strong and mature personality of their partner, while the older one loves how fresh and full of beans their partner is. This difference makes the couple less competitive, which is yet another benefit of age gap relationships. Partners of a similar age are usually in the same phase when it comes to their career and have the same level of experience, so they tend to be far more ambitious and competitive even with one another.

The Drawbacks Of Age Gap Relationships

Despite the obvious advantages of being with an older partner, there are some disadvantages involved too. While the advantages have to do with the couple itself, though, the drawbacks are more related to how the others see them.

One of the biggest problems still facing age gap relationships has to do with how they are accepted by their family and friends. Sometimes our own family and circle of friends find it hard to accept our life choices.

Another issue people in age gap relationships face is some narrow-minded people’s suspicion. For some, it is hard to believe that a grown man and a grown woman have chosen to be together out of love and not for any other reason if they are not of the same age.

All in all, love is a rare and beautiful thing and it sometimes chooses us faster than we choose it. It’s a shame to let happiness slip away for fear of what others might say or because of prejudice and preconceived ideas of who we should and shouldn’t be with. At the end of the day, both age gap relationships and same age ones will have to face and overcome issues, and both will need the same kind of fuel to work.

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