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Science-Backed Tips On How to Nail Online Dating

Whether you’re a first-timer at online dating and have no clue how to go about it or you’re someone who’s been doing it for quite some time, there is always room for improvement. So, if you want to nail online dating, the following science-backed tips will surely help you improve your game.

Nail Online Dating By Taking These Into Account

There’s a hell of a lot of dating advice out there, but the best kind has to be the one that’s backed by science. So, we’re giving you some online dating tips that are not just ideas, they are based on actual scientific facts.

#1. Use A Question On Your Online Profile

Apparently, adding a question to your profile is a great way to strike up a conversation, as it gives the prospective partner a good excuse to talk to you. It is also a great way to explore if there’s common ground. For instance, if you are into art, you could ask “Who’s your favorite modern painter?” after you’ve mentioned some of your preferred artists. Sociologist Dr. Jess Carbino, told Business Insider: “A lot of individuals need to have fodder to make conversation. It’s very difficult for people sometimes to put themselves forward and try to make that first move.”

#2.  Don’t Cover Your Face

The same sociologist also advises online daters to let their facial features be on full display. This doesn’t just mean not putting your hands on your face; it includes not wearing any face or head accessories, like hats or sunglasses, either. That’s because people do what psychologists call “thin slicing.” According to Carbino, we take “thin slices of information and in a very quick period of time make very accurate judgments about somebody.”

#3. Don’t Post Selfies

According to Business Insider’s entertainment editor Nathan McAlone, research has found that selfies are 40% less likely to be a partner magnet on your online dating profile. It’s better to use photos of you taken by someone else, not yourself.

#4. Be Expansive In Your Profile Pic

Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy coined the term “power pose” in her TED speech in 2012, to describe the kind of expansive photo pose where you take up a lot of space and feel powerful and confident. According to a 2016 study, people tend to feel stronger attraction to those in expansive postures rather than those in contracted ones. So, no slouching on your dating profile photo.

If you’ve never heard these pieces of advice before, you are very welcome. Now, it’s time to put all this newly acquired knowledge into practice, don’t you think?

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Sologamy, A Type Of Relationship Everybody’s Crazy About

Even if the word sologamy doesn’t ring a bell for you, it sure does for more and more people out there who decide to buy an actual ring and commit to themselves, in the trend that seems to be slowly taking over the world.

What Is Sologamy?

A good 20-something years ago, a woman called Linda Baker married herself in celebration of her 40th birthday, practically starting the trend that is now called sologamy.

Simply put, sologamy refers to a person’s decision to commit themselves to…themselves. It’s a ceremony celebrating your decision to love, cherish, and stay true to your own self.

The commitment can be a quiet and completely private moment by yourself with a candle and a mirror, or a traditional type of wedding with a dress or suit, a wedding cake, a formal reception with guests, and vows to love yourself for better and for worse.

Jumping on the sologamy bandwagon, Japanese travel agency Cerca Travel offers to organize the whole event for single women wishing to marry themselves for a whopping £2,500. In their own words, they made this package “to encourage women to have positive feelings about themselves”.

Their customers get to choose their gown, hairstyle, and bouquet and the two-day “solo wedding” package includes a limo, accommodation in a hotel and the all-important photo album that will guarantee it’s a memorable experience.

What Makes People Turn To This Type Of Love?

As with all controversial issues, sologamy has both staunch supporters and passionate critics.

In a society where we are constantly forced to be paired up, some people claim that sologamy is a solemn act of protest. Those who have been unlucky in love; those who no longer believe in human connection and feel disappointed in romantic relationships, turn to sologamy seeing it as an almost revolutionary act, a decision to go on in life believing they are their strongest ally and friend and have no need to look for love and understanding elsewhere.

On the other hand, there are those who lament the self-centered society that we’ve become, protesting that there is no sense in marrying your own self. In a world where we are taught to be competitive, selfish, nihilistic and introverted, the act of committing to your own self is proof that we are losing the will and power to love each other, to commit and to put our trust in someone other than our own selves.

We, at AsianDate, believe there is no greater revolution than loving each other. There is the great risk of being hurt, it’s true, but there are lessons to be learned, experiences to be gained, a life to be shared. And as one of the greatest minds ever, Albert Einstein, pointed out:  “Life isn’t worth living unless it is lived for someone else”.

A first impression disaster is avoidable, luckily.

This Is What Causes A First Impression Disaster

Like all animals, humans are also built to size each other up very quickly. A first impression is the immediate mental image we make of another person in the very first moments of our encounter. Even though we usually try our best to instantly impress people, sometimes a first impression disaster occurs. This is why.

Can A First Impression Disaster Be Averted?

Luckily, it can. But for us to be able to improve the way people see us when we meet for the first time we need to examine the most common errors made.

To begin with, according to Harvard social psychologist and best-selling author of the book ‘Presence’, Amy Cuddy, people seek to answer 2 crucial questions when they first meet you. The first one is “Can I trust you?” and the second “Can I respect you?”

Regarding these two questions, Cuddy says that most of us tend to consider competence as the more important factor. This is why we break our backs trying to prove that we are smart and talented enough to win a stranger’s trust.

However, the Professor says that it is warmth, or trustworthiness, that constitutes the most important factor in how people evaluate you. “From an evolutionary perspective,” Cuddy says, “it is more crucial to our survival to know whether a person deserves our trust.”

These questions are immediately answered in the very first moments of our encounter, at the same time as we size the other person up too. These moments are enough for a first impression disaster to happen.

The First Impression Mistakes We Make

Some of the most serious first impression disasters are caused by the following behaviors:

#1. We play clever.

Even though everyone likes intelligent people, nobody likes a smartass. When we meet someone for the first time it is a good idea to leave some room for them to express themselves, to make them feel important and to hear them out before we start pretending to know everything, trying too hard to impress.

#2. We share too much too soon.

Trying to connect with others is a noble act, but with people we know nothing about it can prove to be a major trap. When you don’t know what kind of life a person leads, you may reveal embarrassing details about your own life that might offend them and you might regret later.

#3. We adopt a body language of fear or subordination.

In nature, a scared animal will hide in its shell or curl up in order to look smaller and thus, less intimidating. If you find your body language sending out this kind of message, change your posture to a stronger, more confident one immediately. Sometimes non-verbal communication may be equally important as (or more important than) the things we say with words.

#4. We try too hard.

People appreciate calmness and honesty. A person who is not calm is generally seen as dishonest too. When you put in too much effort to impress, by talking nonstop or over-reacting, for instance when a person you just met cracks a moderately funny remark and you practically break down in a frenzied burst of laughter, it’s a sign of desperation and fakery; things that don’t register well with people.

#5. We are too nosy.

When we meet someone for the first time, there is a very fine line we should not cross as concerns the things we can ask them. For example, if we meet a woman who we learn has been divorced, even though we may be dying to know why her marriage came to an end, the question is completely out of bounds. Maybe she was cheated on, or maybe she was the one doing the cheating – asking her this question will only make things awkward and she will take an instant dislike to you.

Although the first few minutes we meet someone are usually quite awkward, we can avoid a first impression disaster by being careful not to adopt these annoying or simply wrong behaviors. We may not always hit it off like a house on fire with everyone, but we will at least give them the incentive to want to know us better.

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Modern Dating Is Not Rubbish, And Here’s Why

In life, it is very rare for anything to just be black or white. In difficult times as the ones we’re experiencing, it is also very tempting to idealize the past and the old way of life – probably because we feel like it lifts a weight off our shoulders. We can blame modern dating for being an awful monster, feeling like there’s not much we can do to fight it.

Modern Dating Is Really Not The Monster

When we are looking for that special someone to love and to be loved by, when we are desperate for real emotions, when genuine, healthy, happy long-term relationships are more scarcely seen than the Loch Ness monster, this is when we look for something to blame that is not our responsibility. Is it all modern dating’s fault, though?

Is Simpler Always Better?

Back in our parents’ time, things may have been simpler, but that doesn’t mean they were better. You were introduced to someone that was moderately compatible with you, for example a family friend or someone others thought was a catch because he happened to have a profitable job, and you’d be crazy to let the opportunity go, not date them and end up unmarried and childless at 25.

Nowadays, there is a seemingly endless amount of people to choose from, and we often feel lost in the sea of opportunities. Yes, it is hard to find someone out there who can appreciate you for who you are and who can really integrate into your life, sharing your lifestyle and interests. With opportunity also comes responsibility. Could it be we have grown afraid of too much freedom? Can we really be spoilt for choice?

We also tend to blame the social media, dating apps, and dating sites for the superficiality of our relationships. Things are really simple, though. If you’re looking for something more serious and long-term, all you need to do is be up-front and honest about your intentions. There are so many people out there looking for the same thing as you are – just let them know you are available.

A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

The more we blame modern dating for our troubled love lives (or the lack thereof), the more we believe in a self-fulfilling prophecy that it’s never going to work for us.

Yes, you will only ever attract one-night stands if you are presenting yourself as someone who’s after them. Of course, a lady will make communication hard for you if you play hard-to-get and make her wait and wait until you text. And she’ll phub you when you’re out on a date if you can’t put your mobile away when she’s talking to you too. You will only ever meet superficial people if you are afraid to be vulnerable on your dates and present only the side of you that you want others to see. It’s not about karma – it’s the give-and-take involved in all relationships.

The Genders’ Roles

Today, sexuality is not as clearly defined as it used to be, nor are the genders’ roles considered as hard-wired as they were a few decades ago. People can date whoever they want – irrespective of age, gender, sexual preferences or other likes and fetishes. Modern dating offers people the chance to connect with like-minded people from all four corners of the Earth, with dating apps opening up a new world where you don’t need to travel the world for a potential partner.

Perhaps it’s time to stop romanticizing a time when men and women had such defined roles they were never seen as equals.  Isn’t it a good thing both men and women can be proud of their sexuality? Isn’t it a huge step forward that they can choose the roles they want to have in a relationship instead of being made to play the roles society has chosen for them?

Killing The Real Monster

Was there ever a time when dating wasn’t awkward or hard? Was there ever a time when people didn’t play games, cheating wasn’t a part of life and falling in love wasn’t both life-affirming and scary? Human relationships have always been a minefield, but they have also been a fun and exciting part of life. And they still are. So when the right person shows up – whether on a dating app or IRL – it won’t matter where or how. Modern dating will restore your faith in love, and the monster will be gone for good.

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