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How To Be A Gentleman In 2020

Some might say that being a gentleman or acting gentlemanly are things of the past, but few things are more misguided than thinking that. It’s not only the positive impact it has on the ladies, being a gentleman is a way of life – not a forced attitude – that will significantly improve your life too.

Simple Ways To Be A Gentleman Every Day

The best thing about being a gentleman is that it is not hard to achieve or too complicated. In reality, it’s the simplest, most subtle, things that matter when it comes to your everyday conduct and interaction with others. Here are some basic rules with which to begin.

Be polite. Whether it is with people you know, like friends and family, or complete strangers, like waiters and shop assistants, being polite is an absolute must. Saying your ‘pleases’ and ‘thank yous’ and not forgetting to say ‘hello’ and ‘goodbye’ is rule #1 for any self-respecting person – man or woman – really.

Don’t bring negative energy. Everyone has problems these days, from financial troubles to a bad situation at home or in the office. Whining about your issues all the time and making everyone feel awkward won’t solve anything. All it will do is to bring people around you down and subconsciously either make them hang out because they pity you or avoid you because they can’t stand the extra load you bring to their already burdened lives.

No politics or religion. Two of the most sensitive and potentially offensive issues of all time are politics and religion. Most of us may have our strong opinions on one or both of them, but voicing them in front of a bunch of people we barely know, or in conversations with people who are less interested in them or completely disagree with our views, is just wrong. Not talking about politics and religion is not a sign of not caring, it is the exact opposite.

Put the mobile phone away. With so many things in our lives done through our mobile phones, it is easy to get carried away and use ours in the company of others. However, it is inexcusable to do so, unless it’s a matter of real emergency. Put yourself in the place of the person talking to you. They are trying to tell you something while you’re staring at your mobile phone screen or typing something. Such behavior is impolite and disrespectful, so next time you’re with company, keep your mobile in your pocket.

Don’t forget your manners online. We’ve already talked about being polite in the company of others, but it is equally important to remember your manners online. Even though you may not be looking in the eyes of the person you’re communicating with, they still have feelings and deserve your respect. Don’t offend, make fun of, lie, or blatantly avoid a person just because you can’t see their face.

Respect people’s space. Not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally. Don’t push people to talk more than they are comfortable talking, do things they don’t feel like doing or be things they are not ready to be. Knowing how to actively improve others without being pushy or assuming you know what’s good for them is a gift that gentlemen have naturally (or work towards having).

Take care of your appearance. Dressing according to the occasion (no sweatpants on a dinner date, for instance), keeping yourself clean and well-groomed are essential parts of a gentleman’s appearance and way of life. When you take care of yourself, it means that you love yourself and respect your date or company enough to show your best.

Ladies first. A big misconception that comes with female emancipation is that doing certain things for women is outdated.  On the contrary, opening the door for a lady, pushing her chair in at a restaurant or holding her coat for her to wear are all habits any man should have. The two genders may be equal, but it’s nice to keep some roles separate too.

The basic rules of how to be a gentleman are really simple, and the most important thing is to get the basic idea of what it means to be one. Once you do, it will all come to you naturally.

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You’re Lucky If You’re A Guy Spending Valentine’s In Korea

How do you spend Valentine’s Day in your country? It’s probably similar to how the Western culture celebrates Valentine’s – the man goes out to buy chocolates and flowers, and then gives it to his lady to show how deep or passionate his affection is. Korea is different, however – very different. Valentine’s in Korea is more of the man’s day than the woman’s.

Men Don’t Have To Do Anything During Valentine’s In Korea

You might be little confused with a comment that men do nothing. But it means just that. It may sound strange to you, but Valentine’s in Korea is not a day for the ladies, as we have already mentioned. It is a day that focuses on the men receiving gifts from ladies. Refreshing, isn’t it?

The Korean Love Days

In the Korean culture, Valentine’s is just one of twelve love days. There’s “Hug Day”, “Kiss Day” and “Rose Day” among others. We’ll talk about these love days soon also. But for now, you should know that aside from Valentine’s day, there are other love days that Koreans commonly celebrate: White Day and Black Day. Let’s break each day down:

Valentine’s Day (Feb 14)

This is the day when the men receive presents or chocolates from their wives, girlfriends or from the woman who likes them. When you receive something on Valentine’s, the one that gave the present to you wants to let you know that you are important in her life, either romantically or platonically.

White Day (March 14)

Of course, the ladies should not be left out. The ladies’ day comes a month after Valentine’s in Korea. On this day, it’s men’s turn to buy chocolates, flowers or small trinkets to give to women in their lives.

Black Day (April 14)

Korea probably has a day for everything because they even have a way of celebrating a day for singles. So if supposedly, during Valentine’s and White Day, singles did not receive anything, they “mourn” their singleness on Black Day by eating Jjajangmyeon (Black Noodles) with other single friends.

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How To Turn Down A Date Politely

Even though it is definitely hard being on the receiving end of a date rejection, there is no doubt that being the one having to do it is not a pleasant business either. Luckily, there are ways to turn down a date politely.

How To Be Nice When You Turn Down A Date

Be gentle. Make sure you thank the lady for asking you out. You can even begin by complimenting her on something you genuinely admire about her. For example, you could say something along the lines of “Thank you very much for asking me out. I really like hanging out with you, but….”, “I really appreciate your offer and you know that I value your friendship, but…”, or “You are so nice for asking and you know I think you are great. However…”

Find an excuse that doesn’t offend. If you are in a relationship already, you should let her know. If you are not, you should remember that honesty is the best policy, but honesty doesn’t have to be cruel. The best idea is to make it all about you. No need to list the reasons you are not interested in her. You could just tell her you think of her more as a friend or that you are not really looking to date at this moment in time. Make sure you sound as polite and flattered as possible, but not condescending or like you pity them for being rejected.

Body Language Is Just As Important As Words

Watch your body language. If you are taken by surprise by the offer, your body language can reveal things your words may want to hide.  Try not to fold your arms, as this shows you are putting up a guard. Also, you should not step backwards like you are about to run away. Despite the fact you will definitely be in an awkward position, it is of great importance to stay cool and keep the communication open.

Maintain Eye Contact. The hardest part might be to keep looking in her eyes throughout this difficult conversation. However, it is imperative that you maintain eye contact even as you turn down a date, as this will show her that you mean every word you say and it will eliminate awkwardness in the long run. Especially if it’s a person within your circle of friends or acquaintances, meaning you will see her frequently.

In a nutshell, although it’s never easy to turn down a date, it is really not the end of the world for either of you. The golden rule is to deal with this rejection as you would want to be treated if it were the other way round.

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Is Your Career Spoiling Your Love Life?

Our job plays such an important role in our lives. Ever since we are very young we are taught that being hard-working and excelling at work are signs of success and stability. What happens when your job interferes with your relationships, though? Can having a career be spoiling your love life?

The Ways Your Career May Be Spoiling Your Love Life

From being attached to your smartphone to not having enough energy for your partner, these are the ways in which your job can play havoc with your relationship.

You Frequently Bring Work Home. It can happen to anyone. You haven’t had the time to finish all your tasks in the 8 hours you spent at the office and had to bring the rest home. How often does it happen to you, though? It’s ok if it’s once a month, but if you are forced to continue working when you’re home, it could mean that your work is taking over your life. The time you spend outside working hours is meant to be the time you spend with your loved ones. Devoting that time to work means you get to spend less time with your partner, which is a very bad idea.

You Constantly Talk About Your Job. Of course, you are supposed to talk about work with your partner. It is only natural to share your everyday experiences with your lady, but is it possible that it’s taking over all other topics of conversation? Make sure you also talk about other things, and maybe take up a hobby that will take your mind off your job and make you feel creative again before you tire your girl. “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy”, as the saying goes.

You Carry The Office Tension Around. You don’t like your snobby superior, you hate the office gossip, you are bitter about how the proposal you put forward was rejected after all, and the list goes on. There isn’t one day you don’t go home with one reason or another to be upset/ angry/ stressed because of work. Does this have a toll on your relationship? Having a partner who’s constantly on edge takes away from the fun of the relationship and makes communication hard; sometimes impossible even.

Your Smart Phone Is the Extension Of Your Hand. Not because you’re uploading pics on Instagram or browsing your Facebook account, you’re more likely to be checking your e-mail for work-related mail or waiting for that all-important customer to call. All the time. Everywhere. Even during dinner with your partner. This kind of behavior can be extremely offensive and it builds a wall between you and your partner. When you spend time with the person you love, this is the time that should be exclusively focused on you two only.

If you are having so much trouble leaving your work in the office, you are in danger of losing your relationship to your job. In the constant race to achieve more, make more, move up in the career ladder, what society doesn’t tell us is where to draw the line. If you are feeling you can’t juggle both work and a love life, maybe it’s time to either set boundaries or choose one of the two.

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