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Love Lessons That You Should Have Learned From Past Flings

When you look back at all the past flings you’ve had in your life, can you say that you have learned a lot from the experiences you’ve gone through? Revisiting memories that are potentially painful might not be an easy task for most of us, but, most importantly, we can hold on to the fact that we learned valuable life as well as love lessons from our previous relationships.

Cherish These Love Lessons From Your Past Relationships

Each of us has had their own lessons with our individual experiences, but here’s a helpful list of common love lessons you might have experienced from your past flings that you have never though of before. These lessons can help you in your future relationship, and they can even make your realize just how much you have grown as a person:

1. Falling Out Of Love Is Something Real

You have definitely gone through a stage in one of your relationships where you told yourself that you don’t feel anything anymore. This is normal, and it happens to everybody. We all need to realize and accept this fact whether it happened to us or our previous partner.

2. The Person You Love Most Will Hurt You the Most

Raise your hand if you agree. Most of us have this tendency to put our significant others on a pedestal, only to be disappointed in the end. This is actually more of a life lesson than a lesson in love – we need to realize that people will disappoint us at some point. The best thing to approach this is to think positively, resolve whatever issue is present through communication and honesty, and then move forward.

3. You Can’t Force Someone To Change

How many times have we read this in dating blogs? You absolutely cannot force anybody to change. It’s worth repeating here because, often times, when we are in love, we automatically think that the other person will change with us and for us. That isn’t always the case and we need to accept it.

As mentioned, we can carry these love lessons into the relationships that we are soon to have. Our past flings may not have worked out, but think of them as necessary obstacles that you may have already hurdled. Because of all the lessons you’ve learned and hurt you’ve gone through, you have emerged a better person. For more insightful tips on love and relationships, check out more of our articles here.

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These Words Are Slowly Destroying Your Relationship

Phrases like ‘you mean nothing to me’, ‘I hate you’, or worse, ‘I don’t love you anymore’ are pretty blatant. They all tell the person you’re talking to that you want out of the relationship. Despite the harshness of these phrases, they are better compared to others that are slowly destroying your relationship without you knowing it.

Here’s How You’re Destroying Your Relationship Unconsciously

It’s not that we are saying that the phrases mentioned above are ‘good’. We’re saying that they are straight to the point. They convey a very clear message without allowing the other person to think of other meanings. But, we’re not here to talk about those words today. We’re here to talk about words or phrases that are destroying your relationship. You might even be saying them on a daily basis:

This is all your fault.

Does this sound familiar? Pointing fingers could be one reason your partner loses interest in the relationship. Always pounding on the blame to the other person without acknowledging your part in the conflict could make your partner feel diminished.

You’re useless.

Another sentence that you should avoid saying is this. Again, it makes your significant other feel that they are worthless and that you don’t appreciate anything they do. You’re destroying your relationship with just a few words.

You need to do this. You need to do that.

To you, these phrases may sound harmless. ‘You need to be more outgoing’ sounds like it can do no harm, but think again. Saying sentences that start with ‘you need to…’ means that the other person in the relationship needs to make specific changes based on your opinion. Your opinion could be wrong or offensive, you know.

Why don’t you just do A, instead of B?

You’re offering advice which is great, but the problem here lies in the finality of your sentence. You’re destroying your relationship by suggesting something you came up with yourself. What you’re doing is shutting down the opportunity to talk to your partner to resolve things in a better way.

We all struggle with our relationships. No union is perfect, but if we strive to become more sensitive and see things from a perspective of love and nurturing, it’s not just ourselves who will reap the benefit of becoming a better person. We could be uplifting our partners as well. We have more relationship advice on our blog so make sure you check out the rest of our posts.

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You Need To Watch Out For Dating Recyclers

Everyone knows that it’s good to recycle. It’s great for the environment and doing so helps us fulfill our social responsibility towards Mother Earth. But, in dating, Elinor Greenberg, Ph.D, an Associate Editor of Gestalt Review, used the word “recycle” in a different light. She came up with the term: Dating Recyclers.

Understanding Dating Recyclers

Let’s define the term first. According to Dr. Greenberg, dating recyclers are narcissistic men and women who tend to cycle through the roster of their lovers. They avoid confrontations and they highly value being with someone who is predictable. Most often, they don’t pursue new lovers because their needs are met with the roster they currently have.

How do dating recyclers operate?

The word roster was mentioned because this is exactly what a recycler has. Overtime, this type of dater would collect a number of people for their rosters. What they, then, do is start with the first person on the list. Once a recycler feels that his or her ego has been damaged, or if he or she is just plain bored, the next step is to move on to the second person on the list. The damage or boredom happens again, so the recycler moves on to number 3 on the list. The cycle goes on and on.

According to Dr. Greenberg, when the lovers don’t notice anything, the pattern can go on forever, but, in most cases, lovers do find out. They either leave the relationship or just settle with the idea.

Is it bad to date a recycler?

As mentioned earlier, recycling is a negative dating pattern that narcissists follow. It’s good to be open to other types of dating – an open relationship, for example. However, with dating recyclers they don’t really go into this type of relationship with full honesty. They just keep it to themselves until lovers find out. So, to answer the question, yes, it’s a bad idea to be in the roster of a recycler.

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This Is How You Breathe New Life Into A Stale Relationship

Finding a life partner is no mean feat. There’s a sea of potential lovers and spouses out there who are waiting to be “tried and tested” and  it can be an overwhelming experience. But even when you do find your significant other and spend a few years of your life together, problems like feeling bored, or like you’re stuck in a rut once the honeymoon phase is over will often emerge making you wonder if you have made the right choice. If you’re feeling like you’re in a kind of stale relationship, don’t despair – there are ways to breathe new life into it.

What Is A Stale Relationship Like?

A stale relationship is one where you feel like you’re doing the same thing over and over again, lacking much excitement and the feeling of adventure. It’s one that, well, just doesn’t feel “fresh” anymore.

Can You Make A Stale Relationship Fresh Again?

If genuine emotions of love and admiration are there, of course, you can. All it takes is a bit of effort and willingness from both partners. Here are some ways to improve things.

First of all, you need to be able to address the elephant in the room. You can feel the boredom, and it’s more than probable that so does your significant other. There’s no reason to lay blame or pretend it’s not there, though. The first and vital step to finding a solution is to recognize the problem and decide you want to work on making things better. Have that talk, and be positive that you’re both on the same page.

To begin with, a great idea is to start going on dates again. Not with other people, of course. Very often couples who have been together for some time tend to skip date nights because they have gotten too comfortable. Sure, slouching on the sofa in your PJs on a Saturday night is a lot more convenient than dressing up for a night at the bar, but it’s also far less stimulating and exciting. Even the fact that you will dress up for each other will mean something – it will mean you are actually interested enough to make an effort.

Second, you should remind your partner (and yourself) the things that make you love and admire each other. Arrange to say one thing every day that makes you love your partner. For example, every morning you can tell your partner “I’m in love with you because…” and add even the smallest things that draw you to her/him. In a routine where we tend to whine about the things our partners do wrong (like forgetting to take out the trash), it’s good to remind our partners of the reasons we actually love them. It might seem tedious or silly at first, but it totally works.

Another trick to make your stale relationship feel fresh again is to compile a list of things that make you have fun, or that you’d like to try. Have you always wanted to visit Paris? Has your partner always wanted to play paintball but you were too bored to follow? Do you both want to try bungee jumping off a bridge? Do you both like ice-skating but have never done it together? Does a bakery class sound interesting to you? Find things that excite you and make you have fun and do them together. Shared fun is the best kind of fun, and it’s incredibly bonding too.

A fourth important factor in reviving a relationship that’s gone a little off is to make things more interesting in the bedroom. If you’re feeling bored in the relationship, things are probably not much better in the sex department. There are 3 words for this issue: spice things up. Talk about the new things you can introduce, sext your partner from work, from the bus, from the next room. Talk dirty, talk about your fantasies and candidly ask your partner for the things that would bring back fire between the sheets. Be open to new suggestions and experiences, and take things one step at a time. You’ll be surprised at how a small change, like a new set of underwear or a fuzzy set of handcuffs, can heat things up again.

And If All Else Fails, Do This

Last, but not least, if the above steps don’t do much for you, don’t hesitate to seek the help of an expert. Couples therapy is not half as daunting as you might imagine, and it can get to the root of the issues you could be facing without even realizing it.

If there is one thing for sure, it’s that modern-day relationships are not the perfectly happy situations we see in Hollywood films or read in romantic novels. They take effort, determination, care, and – above all – they take love. Once love is there, even a stale relationship can become as fresh as hot cakes that have just come out of the oven.

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