We spend a lot of time here at AsianDate trying to help men get the most out of online dating. So it’s no surprise that over on the female half of the internet, women’s websites are doing the exact same thing for their readers. Having a better understanding of how women approach online dating will, naturally, help you better approach them online. Here are three online dating tips from women’s websites and how you can use them to your advantage.
The Website: YourTango
The Tip: “A man will decide within seconds of reading a profile if he thinks a woman is the type person he is looking for. A profile should be written in a way that makes a woman appear special and worth contacting.”
What it means for you: When looking at a woman’s profile, be aware that she probably put a lot of thought into it. If it’s long and detailed, she’s looking for a man that shares her specific interests. If it’s short and general, she wants a man that shares a few key values and interests that are very important to her. Recognize these clues, and you’ll be sure to pick out your best potential matches quickly and confidently.
The Website: Elle
The Tip: “Keep [first] messages brief—98 words each, ideally—and individualized to each recipient.”
What it means for you: We think you should steal this tip for yourself. We have no idea where “98 words each” came from, but the point remains. First messages should be short, because you haven’t even gotten to know the lady yet. Save your fawning love letters for later. Brevity also does you a favor—you have time to write to more women. Make sure to be specific, though: Women can spot a copy-and-pasted form letter from three continents away.
The Website: Women’s Health
The Tip: “Demand to be wined and dined—or at least not simply wined.”
What it means for you: If you’ve reached the point in a process where you’re looking to meet with a woman in person, your first instinct will be to ask a woman out for a drink. It’s the go-to for a first date, right? Not according to Women’s Health. “When a guy proposed seeing a Richard Avedon exhibit at the local museum, [Women’s Health reader] Joan jumped at the chance to meet someone who shared her passion for art and fashion.” What’s the moral of the story? Look through your match’s profile to determine her interests and think up a first date that will align with them. She’ll notice your thoughtfulness and you’re more likely to have fun on the date.
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