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Online Dating Horror Stories (and What You Should Learn from Them)

One of the beauties of online dating is that it brings together unlikely couples, people that wouldn’t normally cross paths. This can also be a downside when it so happens that one of these two people is a complete weirdo. While we know you never would pull any of these antics, we still think there are lessons to be learned from these online dating horror stories from around the web.

Online Dating Horror Stories That Should Be A Lesson To You

1. “Dude talked for several hours nonstop about his multi-discipline art project, which was based solely on an experience his father had 40 years ago. It was the only thing he talked about, no exaggeration, for 70% of the date.”

It’s awesome if you’re working on a cool project, and it’s more than cool to talk about it. But if it’s super nich-ey or specific, consider discussing something a little more accessible. Not to mention you shouldn’t be talking for 70% of the date, let alone about one thing. It’s polite to let your date talk – she’ll appreciate the chance to express herself, and you’ll learn more about her.

2. “Set a first date for a big Halloween bar hop. I went as hipster Hitler. Never do the first date as Hitler. To be fair, you can’t read snark on a text. Turns out she was very Jewish. Life lesson learned.”

Life lesson learned, indeed. There’s a time and place for your edgy humor, but a first date is not it. If you’re the type of person who likes to throw political correctness out the window, there are definitely women out there who appreciate that. But if you’re going on a first date, give yourself a chance to feel her out.

3. “I took her to a nice romantic movie, ‘The Road.’ My friends still make fun of me for that.”

Here’s the thing about dates at the movie theater: There’s a pretty good chance you’re gonna pick the wrong movie. Obviously, a dystopian, post-apocalyptic tragedy is not the move. But an overly romantic film can make things awkward and might not be that much better. Settle for a romantic comedy or a light-hearted action flick and call it a day.

4. “After what I thought was a fun date with a new guy, I turned to internet and found his Twitter feed. His last Tweet was right after our date: Why is it that girls who look slutty never go home with me?”

First of all, you should know by now how the internet works. This guy was an absolute idiot to post this on his public Twitter profile. People Google their dates all the time, so go in to your date with the expectation that your date has done a quick search on you. Second, and more importantly, have some respect! It’s no wonder that no one wanted to go home with this guy.

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How to Flirt: Making an Emotional Connection

Whenever you flirt or chat with a date (either online or in person), it’s always important not to “interview” your match by asking too many consecutive questions. Instead, you should try to lead the conversation in a direction that will make the emotional connection between the two of you.

The Best Technique For Better Emotional Connection

There’s a simple technique for better connecting with a prospective partner on an emotional level: respond to the emotional content of what they say, rather than the factual content.

For example, if your match says: “I went skydiving once.”

An example of a fact-based response would be: “Cool. My friend is a professional skydiver.”

An example of an emotion-based response would be: “That’s great. I like when people are adventurous enough to step outside their everyday comfort zone. How did you feel right after you jumped?”

When your match tells you something about herself, she communicates both factual content (i.e. that she went skydiving) and emotional content (i.e. she is adventurous and loves fun). If you respond with a fact about yourself (especially one that “one-ups” her story), it won’t make her feel like you are connecting. If you acknowledge that she is trying to share an emotion and lead the conversation in that direction, the two of you will build a much deeper connection.

People can often get this wrong. When we speak to each other, competition is natural. It connects people to each other and establishes power relationships. But when couples do it to each other, it feels cold and disconnected.

Take a look at the following statements someone may write to you. What’s the fact-based response you could give? What’s the better, emotion-based response you could give?

Example 1: “I traveled all by myself once to Spain for two weeks.”

Example 2: “The last book I read was a novel about a woman who is torn between two men.”

Example 3: “My mother always tells me that I’m too impatient, and if I’m more patient I will get more of what I want.”

Practice this technique and you’ll find that your conversations leave both of you feeling more connected.

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Four Online Dating Myths (And Why They’re Wrong)

Even though online dating has been around for essentially two decades now, it still seems mysterious to some. We’re here to debunk four myths about online dating that, for whatever reason, some people still believe.

Online Dating Myths You Should Forget About

1. Everyone lies in their online dating profile.

Some people are hesitant to make connections with others they’ve met online, as they’ve been warned time and time again that everyone on online dating sites chooses misleading profile pictures, exaggerates their best qualities and hides their worst ones. While it’s inevitable that some people are less than honest, it’s a much smaller percentage of the online dating population than many would have you believe. Most people are looking to establish a genuine connection, and they realize they need to be honest to do so.

2. Online dating is only a means to in-person dating.

Traditional thinking dictates that after a few conversations with someone online, you either need to meet with them in person or give up on them. Modern online daters, however, know that this logic is far from true. Many online daters get great pleasure from the feelings of camaraderie and connection that you can get just from maintaining an online relationship. It’s often more than enough.

3. People only resort to online dating after striking out offline.

“If you’re looking for women on the internet,” the thinking goes, “it must be because you couldn’t find someone in real life.” Obviously, this reasoning has several flaws. Online dating offers a wider dating pool, profiles full of information on romantic prospects, and the means to chat with lots of ladies at once. Compared to all these efficiencies, many daters simply don’t find in-person dating to be worth the time investment.

4. Online daters only care about physical appearance.

Well, maybe this stereotype applies to people both online and offline. But, if anything, online daters have proven themselves to be less superficial than their in-person counterparts. Imagine going out to a bar: You have no basis other than physical appearance to go off of when deciding if you want to start a conversation with someone. Online, you have a page full of information to read through to help evaluate potential matches.

While some people still believe these stereotypes, more and more are recognizing the legitimacy of online dating as they, and people they know, begin to find romantic success on the web.

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How To Make Yourself More Attractive to Women

It’s not uncommon for men to be at loss for what to say to women, and it’s no wonder. Women are often far from transparent with their reactions and emotions, so it can be tough to read whether she’s picking up what you’re putting down. Fortunately, we’re here to help. Here are three things you can say to women with confidence that they’ll be into it and you finally can go through life (and online dating) knowing that you are far more attractive to women than you’ve ever been.

You’ll Be More Attractive To Women If You Say This

1. “What do you think?”

You’ve probably heard a lot of people say that women like men who are decisive, and that’s often true. There’s nothing wrong with being the one to choose the restaurant you eat at together or the movie you watch. But women – just like men! – like to at least be asked. Even if she always defers to you, she’ll notice and appreciate that you value her input.

2. “Thank you” and “You’re welcome”

The first thing a woman will notice about you is your mannerisms, and the second thing she’ll notice is your manners. It’s important to be polite from the very start. In a world where Tinder swipes dominate, women value chivalry more than ever. Holding the door, taking her jacket for her and helping her carry things are all included in this, as well. And don’t forget to be kind to service industry personnel!  How you treat waiters and service staff says a lot about you as a person.

3. “Damn”

Weird, right? A psychological study at Northern Illinois University found that people who used this word while making an argument were found more attractive by onlookers. It makes sense, in a way: If you let go of a curse word when talking about something you care about, it reveals you to be passionate, intense and principled. Don’t swear gratuitously, though, and take it especially easy on the f-bombs.

Long story short? Women like when men say things that reveal attractive personality traits: caring, chivalry and passion.

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