If you haven’t had any luck when online dating yet, maybe its not your luck that’s the problem. It could be the way you date online. Have you ever considered that? If you haven’t even thought of the way you online date as the source of your date-lessness, it’s time you wake you up to not so obvious mistakes you’re making when online dating.
Those Obvious Mistakes You’ve Already Corrected Might Not Be The Only Ones You Are Making
You’re forcing someone to reply to your messages.
You might be doing this but are unaware that you are. One way that you could be doing this is if you constantly send messages to ladies that have not replied to your previous ones. The truth is, you need to take a hint. If a lady hasn’t replied to your message after three days, you have to know what that spells out. When online dating, sending and replying to messages have to be done using your instinct.
Just “Hi” and then nothing.
Sending a “hi” is a start but if the lady on the other end says, “hello” back, what’s next? Saying nothing or just sending a smiley is a definite deal breaker. Why? Because it is a conversation killer. You have to at least say something mildly interesting to keep the conversation going.
You’re being too braggy.
When online dating, telling the other person you’re chatting with how great your life is isn’t bad at all. Doing too much of it though (i.e. bragging) won’t land you dates and relationships. When a person brags too much, the other person that’s listening is put off because, as everyone knows, bragging is a sure sign of low self-esteem and the lack of confidence.
You did not do your profile right.
One way of failing when online dating is not setting up your profile correctly. If you haven’t put in the words to attract potential partners, you’re definitely making it hard for the ladies to reply to your messages since they don’t know anything about you. You could be a stalker! That’s actually it! A blank profile with an old photo spells exactly that – stalker. Write something nice about yourself and update your profile picture with a recent, nice-looking photo of you.
You’re not proactive.
Sometimes, you have to reach out to people instead of waiting for someone to reach out to you. This is what you have to do when online dating. If you haven’t gotten any “hits”, smileys or messages yet, why not send some of your own to encourage people to check out your profile and see what kind of guy you are. Online dating is easy but you’d have to stop being lazy after you’re done with setting up your profile.
Building a wall that no one can climb.
Online dating definitely has its reputation. If you went into this form of dating focusing on the negatives, the tendency is for you to build a wall that no one can climb. Don’t let your guard down totally but you’d have to at least open up a door when you’re looking for someone you want to be in a relationship with.
Not doing these not so obvious mistakes will not grant you dating ultimate success, because it takes more. Avoiding these mistakes, however, will better your chances of finding someone who you can be potentially romantic with and that’s better than nothing.
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