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What You Didn’t Know About Dating in China

China is one of the oldest countries in the world, which means it has some of the oldest traditions. From religion to food to festivals, some of China’s most popular traditions today have been in place for hundreds, even thousands of years. We know what you are here about, though: courtship and dating in China. If you’re looking to charm Chinese women, you should know the culture they come from. Here are four things you should know about Chinese dating culture before wooing a Chinese woman.

This Is What Dating In China Looks Like

The Chinese don’t date in high school

Or they’re not supposed to, at least. In that period of life, Chinese students are preparing for the gaokao, the college entrance exam that will determine their post-high school fate. Anything that could distract from a good gaokao score is considered a big no-no. Of course, that’s not to say that some Chinese high school students don’t date anyway. They just keep their youthful romance a secret.

Parents love to get involved

If you’re seriously involved with a Chinese lady, get ready to meet mom and dad—and then meet them a few more times. Chinese parents are known for being intensely involved in their children’s lives, and that doesn’t stop when it comes to dating. Parents will set up their daughters on blind dates and will not be shy in telling them their opinions on the latest boyfriend. If her ma and pa are saying good things about you, then you’re doing pretty good, pal.

No sex before marriage

Both Chinese men and Chinese women value the notion of sexual purity, and many prefer to be married to their only-ever sexual partner and have that be true of their spouse, too. So if a Chinese woman is in a pre-marital sexual relationship with a man, it’s very possible that she expects to marry him. Of course, it’s the 21st century, and this isn’t everyone’s attitude. But ideals of monogamy and purity are still very common and important in Chinese culture.

Chinese women are expected to marry young

You may have heard this one before. The old idea that a woman’s value is derived almost entirely from her role as a wife is still very prevalent in China, and it puts a lot of pressure on Chinese women to marry in their early 20s. This, in part, explains why parents are so heavily involved and everything is so serious: the stakes for dating in China are quite high.

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Cobra Blood: An Indonesian Aphrodisiac

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You may not know it, but there are lots of reasons to drink cobra blood. Don’t believe us? Just ask the US Marines who partook during in-depth jungle survival training, or “Bizarre Foods” host Andrew Zimmern, who tipped back a glass just for the taste of it.

Snakes have been prominently featured in culture and healing throughout history, even having a starring role in the most famous story from the Bible. Asian medicinal practices have been using various snake parts in treatment since 100 AD. Cobra blood in particular is prized for its supposed healing properties, and has been used for everything from rashes and arthritis to surgical recovery and cancer.

There is, however, a slightly more salacious motivation driving those who visit snake blood purveyors in Indonesia and other parts of Southeast Asia: S-E-X.

Cobra blood has long been revered as a potent aphrodisiac and libido kick-starter. Visitors to these regions will find cobra blood offered in certain bars, restaurants, and also trucks and trolleys on the street. There is no conclusive scientific or medical evidence to the sex-drive-boosting claims, but that doesn’t stop masses of people from squeezing fresh blood from a snake’s body into their mouth.

That, or sucking the blood directly from the body of a snake that has just been beheaded in front of you, is the best way to consume the blood. And let’s be honest, it’s also the most badass. We even have a hunch that this badass-ness could be contributing to these libidinous claims.

Most aphrodisiacs, especially from the Far East, are derived from creatures that are either dangerous or extremely. The belief that power can be drawn from the bodies of rare, poisonous, or fierce animals operates on multiple levels. On one hand, the user can imagine that some part of the animal’s biological fierceness is now literally within them as well, and on the other, it’s thought that ingesting or slaughtering a dangerous animal is in itself a display of bravery and strength. The more poisonous the species is, the more potent its aphrodisiac qualities.


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For those who don’t want to suck the blood straight from the snake’s body, there are other options. For the more genteel vampires out there, cobra blood cocktails are quite popular, utilizing a base of rice wine or vodka. Or, you could always toss it back from a shot glass.

Fear not, conservation-minded folks. It’s common to cook up the entire snake once you’re done ingesting its blood, either by roasting the meat and using it in soups, deep-fried on skewers, or just sautéed as a main dish.

There are restaurants that will let you select your snake and aid in its murder, and more adventurous tourists can prove their invincibility by biting the snake’s still-beating heart out of its body and feeling it beat in your mouth before you swallow it. Not kidding. This is a thing that people do.

At that point, it makes sense that your virility would be full and throbbing. But be warned that if you copy this behavior, which many people did after it was portrayed in the 2000 Leonardo DiCaprio movie The Beach, you’re risking infection and possible salmonella poisoning. But that doesn’t matter to a big, strong beast like you, right?

Take a look at the video below to see if you could handle it. Pro tip: It’s perfectly OK to say “no thank you.”

QiXi Festival: 6 facts on the Chinese Valentine’s day

August 20th marks the beginning of a love filled festival in China called QiXi Festival and it’s essentially the Ancient Chinese version of Valentine’s day. The holiday is based off of a charming legend about a cow herder (named Niulang) and a weaver woman (named Zhinu). One day the two of them meet and fall in love, after a secret marriage and a few kids they get separated by the King of Heaven for eternity (In some versions of the story Zhinu is a fairy from heaven and one of the daughters of the king in others, she’s just a fairy who is a dope weaver). After their separation, Niulang tries to track down his wife, but again is thwarted by the celestial love-haters in heaven. Finally, the powers that be decide to cut the love lorn couple a break and allow Niulang and Zhinu a chance to spend one day each year with each other on the seventh day of the seventh month… which means August 20th this year.

Four Spring Traditions in Asia

It’s April and, for the most part, spring is here. For you, that might mean firing up the grill, getting ready to watch your favorite baseball team or pulling the convertible out of the garage. But in Asia, there are a host of spring-time traditions that date back hundreds or thousands of years that are still celebrated by everyone. Take a couple minutes to learn about Asian cultures with our list of spring traditions in Asia.