Do you keep on chatting with different ladies online and putting off meeting them in real life? Do you online date but you don’t put so much thought and effort into it because you are waiting for “the one”? Don’t be surprised if you’re still single then. You have been serendipidating without noticing it.
Why Serendipidating Is Not Healthy
Serendipidating happens when you have found a person or several people online that you’re interested in, but you don’t initiate meeting in real life. You always have this feeling that they are not “the one” so you wait. When you date like this, you’re not putting yourself out there enough.
To some extent, keeping your life open and your choices unlimited is good. However, you cannot settle because there is that feeling in the pit of your stomach, hinting at the possibility that there can still be somebody better. You end up repeating the process of selection; it becomes a cycle because you don’t give anyone a chance.
Realities You Must Accept
You might think that serendipidating might bring you to the right person. On the contrary, you have to be more realistic than that. Love could come in an unexpected manner, but, most of the time, you have to actively search for it in people to find it. Check these facts below and re-assess your current dating situation:
1. There is no perfect person.
There might be the “best person” for you but nobody is perfect. There will be flaws. So no matter the attraction or the serendipity you have experienced during your first meeting, it’s not a guarantee that it will carry you through life until death do you part.
2. Relationships need hard work.
We need to work hard to keep the peace and happiness in our relationship. It’s a no-brainer. You won’t get to that when you are serendipidating because you are just after the feeling and not the responsibility.
3. Your relationship is not the answer to your happiness.
You can be happy in your relationship but a relationship can never be the ultimate answer to your happiness. You have to find your own happiness and bring it into your partnership. If you rely on your relationship to bring you happiness, then you will be up for a big disappointment.
Spend time with a good person and learn to work out problems. Perhaps you already have someone worthy in front of you but your eyes and heart are still wandering. It’s time to see and open yourself up. For more tips on dating, read other posts on our blog.