Throughout your dating life, have you ever wondered why you shy away from healthy relationships? Most don’t do this, of course, but there’s a good number of us who are seemingly afraid of being happy with the right person. What are we afraid of? And, why can’t we accept the love that we deserve?
Why It’s Hard For You To Accept Healthy Relationships
It may be difficult to understand why this is so. If you take a step back, you may think that it is only logical to gravitate towards something that makes us happy. But, that’s not always the case because of the following reasons:
Attachment
Do you know what your attachment style is? It was during your childhood that you have developed it. You may have a secure, anxious, or combination attachment style. You don’t have to worry about anything when you have a secure style. But, if you have an anxious attachment style, it is likely the reason why you cannot accept healthy relationships.
Distancing Behaviors
Let’s say that you met someone special online. At the very beginning, there won’t be any problems. Since you are still in your honeymoon phase, everything is going to feel really happy or blissful. But, eventually, you are going to show distancing behaviors because you are afraid to get hurt or are afraid to let anyone in.
Being Unaware
You could be walking through life not noticing that you actually have to change something in your relationship behavior. You might need to practice more awareness because you don’t know that you’re stuck in a rut. One clue that says you have to open your eyes some more is that your friends or family tell you to do so.
Establish Healthy Relationships By Dealing With Your Baggage
Being in healthy relationships won’t be possible for you unless you deal with your baggage first. If you don’t, you’re just going to end up in the same cycle over and over again. The best thing to do would be to study yourself more, do a little bit of self-discovery, or seek professional help. For more updates and dating tips, read other posts on the blog.