Whenever we’re dating, we always need to check our expectations. If they’re too high, we might be nit-picky when it comes to the flaws of potential partners. On the other hand, have you ever wondered whether your high standards are unrealistic?
Having High Standards Is Not The Same As Having Unrealistic Ideals
The most common misconception we have is that high standards are equal to unrealistic expectations. No, they are not the same. And, not understanding this could be our downfall in a relationship. So, how would you know that your expectations are too much for a potential partner to handle? It’s simple, you can easily tell if your preferences are impossible to attain. For example:
1. Mind Reading
If you expect your partner to know what you need all the time, then your expectations are absolutely unrealistic. Yes, your loved one may be able to tell if you’re sad, or hungry, but not all the time because the way we convey our emotions are different each time.
2. Zero Arguments
It’s impossible for any relationship to have zero arguments. Couples argue about the smallest things like what color to paint the bedroom, so never expect to have a 100% peaceful relationship. Don’t worry though because the conflicts you’ll have will make you stronger as a couple if you get over them.
3. Endless List Of Flaws
Do you always roll your eyes whenever you see your date’s bad habit? Well, no one is perfect, not even you. If you have this unending list of deal-breakers, then, yes, you have become too nit-picky.
As you can tell, only a comic book super hero like Superman or Wonder Woman can fulfill the mentioned expectations on the list. Don’t compromise the standards you have, but if you’re expectations are somewhat similar to those on the list, you have to adjust them. For more relationship and dating tips, read other posts on the blog.