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Dating Mistakes You Didn’t Realize You’re Making

We’ve all made our share of dating mistakes. And since all relationships work in the same basic ways; to spare you the pain and suffering, we’ll share some get-real advice for relationship beginnings. Follow these rules, and you should be able to avoid some treacherous romantic pitfalls.

After Reading This You Won’t Make This Dating Mistakes Ever Again

Rule #1: Don’t date crabby people. Hateful, spiteful, petty, rude, irritable, crabby, ill-tempered, hot-tempered, or just plain mean — if you date someone who fits that description, you are setting yourself up for a serious blow to your self-esteem. Almost all relationships of this kind end; it’s a lucky person who finds even one relationship that lasts forever. If you date a Crabby Person, you can be sure that this relationship will hurt you more than them. Even if you’re the one to leave, even if both of you are feeling disappointed, hurt, heartbroken, or disgusted by the relationship, you will also be hearing about all your flaws and shortcomings. When you get involved with someone who acts like a jerk under normal circumstances, just imagine how they will be when the relationship ends.

Rule #2: Don’t date anyone hoping they will change. People can change, and sometimes they do, but the beginning of a relationship is not the time to make big compromises. Getting off drugs, learning anger management, or being honest is the other person’s problem to fix — not yours. Always assume that anything you dislike about a person is an immutable quality. You might be tempted to think that Jane won’t treat you the way he treats Joe, because you are nothing close to the loser that Joe is. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that being wonderful will make someone change. A person who behaves towards others in a way you don’t like will eventually behave toward you in the exact same way. If you’re involved with someone who lies to other people, they will lie to you, too.

Rule #3: Don’t date anyone who’s not hot. To you, of course. It’s tempting to get into relationships with people you are friends with — you like each other, you have common interests, you get along, you enjoy being together, it’s comfortable — and sometimes it can be great. Sometimes it’s a big mess. The difference? Chemistry. Friendly love is not a substitute for romantic love. Dating someone just because they’re nice, you’re lonely, or you hope it will develop into passion is unfair to the other person. Your feelings are bound to show themselves eventually, and then this person you genuinely care about will feel foolish and used.

Rule #4: Don’t commit to anyone who can’t meet your needs. No single person will ever meet all of your needs; however, the two of you should have a significant degree of natural compatibility. When your needs are complementary, it’s much easier to keep a relationship fun and healthy. Don’t be afraid to end a relationship if you are dissatisfied and can’t find a way to get out of it what you need!

You know what they say: love is a battlefield. Think of these rules and dating mistakes as your armor. They can’t prevent every injury, but they can minimize the damage you receive. If you agree, but need more advice, check the rest of our blog.