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How to Flirt: Making an Emotional Connection

Whenever you flirt or chat with a date (either online or in person), it’s always important not to “interview” your match by asking too many consecutive questions. Instead, you should try to lead the conversation in a direction that will make the emotional connection between the two of you.

The Best Technique For Better Emotional Connection

There’s a simple technique for better connecting with a prospective partner on an emotional level: respond to the emotional content of what they say, rather than the factual content.

For example, if your match says: “I went skydiving once.”

An example of a fact-based response would be: “Cool. My friend is a professional skydiver.”

An example of an emotion-based response would be: “That’s great. I like when people are adventurous enough to step outside their everyday comfort zone. How did you feel right after you jumped?”

When your match tells you something about herself, she communicates both factual content (i.e. that she went skydiving) and emotional content (i.e. she is adventurous and loves fun). If you respond with a fact about yourself (especially one that “one-ups” her story), it won’t make her feel like you are connecting. If you acknowledge that she is trying to share an emotion and lead the conversation in that direction, the two of you will build a much deeper connection.

People can often get this wrong. When we speak to each other, competition is natural. It connects people to each other and establishes power relationships. But when couples do it to each other, it feels cold and disconnected.

Take a look at the following statements someone may write to you. What’s the fact-based response you could give? What’s the better, emotion-based response you could give?

Example 1: “I traveled all by myself once to Spain for two weeks.”

Example 2: “The last book I read was a novel about a woman who is torn between two men.”

Example 3: “My mother always tells me that I’m too impatient, and if I’m more patient I will get more of what I want.”

Practice this technique and you’ll find that your conversations leave both of you feeling more connected.

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The Most Spectacular Christmas Wonderland In Asia

Since we are in the holiday season Christmas bazaars and fairs are expected to pop up everywhere. But there’s one annual Christmas fair that tops all of the Asian bazaars and fairs you’ve ever been to. We’re talking about Christmas Wonderland, which you can experience when you visit Singapore during Christmas season.

Walking In A Christmas Wonderland In Singapore

The Christmas Wonderland is no doubt the biggest Christmas event in Singapore. It’s so spectacular that visitors from all over the world schedule trips to the country just to experience this annual event. It started three years ago and this year the organizers say that it will span over 57,000 square meters.

There will be four main areas:

  • Luminarie light sculptures – which begins at the Golden Garden
  • Festive Market – located at the Supertree Grove
  • The Fairground – which is the Ice Palace
  • Hi-5 Funtastic House – which is in The Meadow

This was last year’s Luminarie design. / Source: wiki.commons.com

What To Expect From This Christmas Wonderland

Aside from the different attractions mentioned, you’ll get to experience Christmas markets where you can eat or go shopping for various items. There’s also the Fairground where you can go on rides, play fair games and maybe even win prizes. There will also be theatrical and choral performances, parades and music sessions to keep the Christmas spirit up.

The official Christmas Wonderland website has an itemized program which you can access here. You’ll be able to see specific performances, dates and specific spots these performances are happening in. It’s detailed so take note of the performances you’re interested to see.

The Spectacular Luminarie Light Sculptures

The main attraction most people are looking forward to is the Luminarie. This attraction is nothing less than amazing. The light sculpture last year looked like a beautiful stadium that was built from lights.

The Most Spectacular Christmas Wonderland In Asia

This year, Christmas Wonderland will show off light sculptures with designs that are reminiscent of the medieval age. There will be as many as 69 sculptures will be positioned within the Supertree Grove and the Dragonfly Bridge.

Christmas Wonderland is going to be bigger than ever, it seems like. The fair has already started, and it will end on New Year’s day, 1 January 2017. Are you interested to see the Luimarie lights yourself? You should probably plan to go next year. For more updates about the Asian culture, do check out other posts on our blog.

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Roses Are Red, Violets Are Blue, Indonesia’s Rafflesia Flower Is 5 Feet Tall and Smells like Rotting Flesh

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Flowers are generally considered to be nice and pleasant, right? A lovely gift, a very traditional romantic gesture, a way to celebrate special occasions, even a way to say “I love you.”

If you gave someone a Rafflesia, however, it probably wouldn’t go over so well. More than likely, they’d be crumbling under the size and weight of the thing, or nauseous from the stench.

The Rafflesia is a parasitic flower native to the jungles of Indonesia, and at 3’6” in diameter and weighing in at 24 lbs., it holds the all-time size record for flowers. When Sir Stamford Raffles discovered the Rafflesia arnoldii in 1818, he described it as “perhaps the largest and most magnificent flower in the world,” and modestly named it after himself and his companion, surgeon-naturalist Dr. James Arnold.

The world’s largest flower lacks many of the traditional markers of what makes a flower: namely leaves, stems, and roots. The huge, five-petaled parasitic flower has nutrient-absorbing threads to suck the life from its host plant; a particular type of vine called the Tetrastigma vine, which grows only in undisturbed rainforests.

There are at least 13 species of Rafflesia, but two of them haven’t been sighted since World War Two and are presumed extinct. The record-holding Rafflesia arnoldii is also facing extinction. To make matters worse, no one has ever cultivated Rafflesia in a garden or laboratory.

This might be due to the smell.

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The Rafflesia is commonly referred to as the corpse flower. It was designed by nature to emit a foul odor mimicking rotting flesh, which attracts certain insects like carrion flies, who then provide pollination and ensure that the stinky circle of life carries on. The repulsive smell of the flower is due to the reddish tentacle-like, branched ramentae, inside the corolla of petals.

The Rafflesia arnoldii is an iconic symbol of the Southeast Asian rainforest, and is often used in tourist brochures to symbolize the rich biodiversity of the region’s forests. The flower has also been depicted on Indonesian postage stamps on several occasions. The flower is used as the symbol of the Flora Malesiana project, which aims to describe all flowering plants from the region between Thailand and Australia.

Although officially on the endangered list, the shockingly large and stinky flowers are a tourist staple. The flowers appear on national Indonesian literature and brochures, and draw intrigued visitors from far and wide.

The Rafflesia won’t win any beauty contests (or be handed out to any pageant winners either,) but it has value as part of Indonesia’s ecosystem and tourism industry. Just steer clear of them come Valentine’s Day unless you want to start a fight.

 

 

 

The Haunted Hotels of Bangkok

Thailand hosts more than 27 million visitors a year, with many of them at least passing through the bustling capital city of Bangkok. Remarkably, large numbers of these visitors who stay in Bangkok hotels might end up encountering another kind of visitor: the paranormal kind.  HOTEL