Frankly, it’s hard to go wrong with online dating. Of course not every conversation will turn into a lifelong romance, but if you’re being yourself and not being too high-strung, you’ll generally get along with the women who have compatible personalities and interests to yours. There are, however, a few things you should never say to any woman you’re pursuing online. We’ve compiled them for you, in hopes that you won’t miss any opportunities because you turned someone off by saying the wrong thing.

1. “I’m still getting over my ex.”

A lot of people who try online dating are recently out of serious relationships, but there’s no need to advertise it. If you’re still at a point where you still need to bring up your ex in every conversation—even those with prospective romantic partners—then maybe you need to take a little more time off from the dating world.

Wei (ID: 1276556) Changsha, China

Wei (ID: 1276556) Changsha, China

2. “Why aren’t you replying to me?”

There could be many answers to this question. Maybe she doesn’t want to talk with you, and that’s fine. Just as likely, though, is the possibility that she hasn’t had a chance to write back to you yet. But by pestering, you come off as desperate and demanding. Pushing for a response never works.

Phuong My (ID: 1257559) Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam

Phuong My (ID: 1257559) Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam

3. “Hi.”

We’re not saying that you should skip greetings! Rather, we’re advocating for an upgrade on the one word “hi”s and “hey”s of the world, or at least an addition. Make your opening line a full one or two sentences, maybe something like this: “Hey! I couldn’t stop thinking about you yesterday. What’s up? :)” Friendliness and enthusiasm are key.

Qisi (ID: 1276339) Kunming, China

Qisi (ID: 1276339) Kunming, China

4. “Your really pretty.”

Not everyone can be a grammar expert or a Scripps National Spelling Bee champion. That said, it’s worth your time to consult a spellchecker. Obvious errors in your messages convey a lack of care in communication. She’ll wonder why she’s not worth the two minutes that it takes to re-read the otherwise-thoughtful message you wrote to her.

5. “Do you wanna sleep with me?”

Come on, man. You’re better than that.