With a different kind of sexual revolution taking place as technology broke the geographical barriers and made us all feel part of a global village, some people today say that monogamy is unnatural, outdated, stifling; impossible even. We can’t lie, especially for those of us who have been in long-term relationships it may often be hard to not lose faith in our partner and to hang on to her. But isn’t everything that’s worth fighting for hard to get or keep? These are the reasons why monogamy may be a one-way street for you.
The Reasons Why Monogamy Works
We won’t try to convince you to be one way or another. The choice to be monogamous or not is a very personal one. All we are going to do is to describe the reasons why monogamy has been around for so long, and why it’s the best and most honest kind of relationship in our view.
#1. You can’t be in love with two or more people at the same time.
Not to the same degree, at least. You may love one and be in love with the other, but there is no way you can love too people in the same way and to the same degree at once. This would cause a strange dynamic of jealousy, antagonism, and stress – all of which are negative and destructive attributes for a relationship.
#2. You can’t expect to be loved to the same degree by two or more people at once.
Likewise, in a polyamorous relationship, you will constantly worry and struggle to figure out how your partners feel. It’s hard enough guessing and figuring out how one partner feels, it’s even worse with more.
#3. Sex gets better with time.
Your between-the-sheets action gets better the more you practice it with your partner. Bringing another person into the equation might seem like a good idea to spice things up, but it will eventually throw you off-balance and make you lose that feeling of intimacy you’ve built between you.
#4. It’s better for your health.
Once you board the polyamory train, you can kiss the feeling of security of knowing you won’t catch STD’s goodbye. People in open relationships can’t be sure that their partner has been careful at all times and with all partners, so they constantly need to be careful to practice safe sex, even when they are in a long-term relationship.
#5. It’s a sign of respect for your special someone.
Even though we may claim to be modern and open-minded as can be, we have been brought up with the ideals of having a special someone, The One, as we are used to calling that person. If you love a woman with all your heart, it’s a sign of respect to be able to give yourself to her exclusively and to make her feel enough for you, in all areas of your life.
So, even though we may fantasize about that supermodel girl that’s just moved next door, sometimes it’s worth not losing faith in the fairytales told by our grandparents where a prince goes looking for the princess that fits the shoe, and the words of Plato: “ Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.”